On the five year anniversary of when it became legal for same-sex couple to marry in Washington, D.C., The Washington Post checks in with three of the couples. For two, it made things much easier, but for one out of state couple, marriage limbo still exists:
Delia and Rebbeca Taylor
“Before we got married, when we were cross with each other we used to say, ‘Does this mean that we’re going to break up?’ ” Delia remembers. “Sometimes in jest and sometimes not quite so much. But divorce has a lot more weight to it. So we don’t even speak in those terms anymore. I don’t know if that’s just because we’ve matured a bit and time’s gone by, and we value what we have that much more. Or if it’s the license.”
Terrance Heath and Richard Imirowicz
It is 8 p.m. on a school night, and Terrance Heath is upstairs singing “Puff the Magic Dragon” in a soft baritone as he tries to lull his 7-year-old son, Dylan, to sleep. Downstairs, Terrance’s husband, Richard Imirowicz, is talking to the couple’s other son, 12-year-old Parker, about his taekwondo lesson.
This is what 2015 looks like for an interracial, legally married gay couple with two adopted boys in suburban Washington.
“I joke sometimes,” Terrance says, “Gee, if only people could see this decadent gay lifestyle that we’re living: Loading the dishwasher and folding laundry and going to parent-teacher meetings and helping with homework and arranging play dates.”
Richard describes it as the “chauffeur stage of marriage. All we do is chauffeur our kids everywhere.”
Tyria Candelaria and Mary Brown-Candelaria
LITTLE ROCK — When Mary Brown and Tyria Candelaria drove out of the District after their 2010 wedding, they rejoiced that the law had caught up with their love. The pair headed back home to Charlotte as the Brown-Candelarias, a fully legal married couple.
Or almost fully. Five years later, the Brown-Candelarias have found that when it comes to enjoying all the legal benefits of marriage, it matterswhere they build their lives together…
…The newlyweds enjoyed social acceptance in their Charlotte neighborhood. And they found family support in Little Rock, Mary’s home town, where they moved in 2011 to take care of her ailing mother. Life is good, but life in a state that doesn’t recognize same-sex marriage has left them in a legal limbo.