Opponents of equality for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender people will often use the comparison of “the gay lifestyle” as an addiction; something like being an alcoholic or a drug addict. Those who are LGBT know that is not true. We know being LGBT is not like being an alcoholic or a drug addict, but we often have a hard time putting into words why it isn’t. As I was watching YouTube commentator, Connor Manning, tell his story of addiction and being a recovering addict, he, inadvertently, gives a good explaination of why being LBGT isn’t like being an addict. At the 2:00 minute mark.
People who are LGBT are worried about their job, their relationship, their future plans. Being gay or getting the next gay isn’t their entire focus. Our focus is on our family, our jobs, our relationship and our communities.
Being gay is also not debilitating. We can still function at our jobs, homes and other social settings perfectly fine as gay people.
The only times that gay is debilitating or interferes with the focus we have on other aspects of our life is when we encounter prejudice and homophobia.